Marriages

Marriages are made in heaven & celebrated on earth….goes the popular belief. Most of the stories have at least one marriage or ends in a marriage. The ones to be married are left behind & someone else takes the place. Unlikely candidates fall for each other & those dating suddenly have a change of heart.

Yesterday while watching ‘The Royal Matchmaker’ I realised that while arranging a marriage & getting involved in the groom is a theme repeated so many times,yet makes a sweet viewing! At the king’s request the New York based matchmaker goes to arrange marriage for Prince Sebastian & falls for him. So does he, so things turn out well.

In “The wedding Planner” Jennifer Lopez is all set to plan a wedding & never planned to fall for the groom. She has been doing this planning for many people & yet this time it’s different. The Malaysian show, ‘Cinta si Wedding Planner’ has a similar theme. She has a fight with him in the parking lot. The next client she meets are his mother & sister. His mother takes an instant liking for her. He has been betrayed & is cautious. She has a cousin who assumed she will marry him. So she is prickly. All ends well finally.

Whatever the planning & yet there are final hiccups. Recent examples being ‘ Badri ki dulhania’ or ‘Humpty sharma ki dulhan’ nothing goes according to the plan. I assume that element of suspense makes it more interesting. In ‘Kati Patang’ Asha Parekh runs away from her wedding to fall for the same man in future, Rajesh Khanna. But then the story would have finished in the beginning itself.In ‘Queen’ Kangana gets dumped a day before her marriage to Rajkumar & gets a new lease in life. Rajkumar gets dumped in “Shaadi mein zaroor aana” by his would- be bride. What a test she has to give later! He is at his best in this film. The final song,’Pallo latke….’ originally from ‘Naukar’ a Jaya -Sanjeev Kumar starrer is another of the remixes.

Actually this happily ever after is the myth. The real struggle begins here. That 24/ 7 is not so easy. It may be the rosy glasses in the start,but once the reality sets in that is the test. To remain in a steady relationship is the challenge. The dropping of scales is to be endured. Expectations to be met with. The test is to develop into a better person. With a person alone there are choices, here the choices are limited & yet you have to excel.

The lifetime association is based on trust, faith, love , commitment, endurance & last but not the least the ability to forgive. Once there is no ego clash, there is smooth sailing. I am not saying it is easy, but it is not so difficult. ‘Tum din ko agar raat kaho raat kahenge’ may be a fantasy, but reaching somewhere near can be achieved. Wedding is just an event but marriage requires lot of patience & endurance.

Happy bonding!